WOMEN-IN-HOCKEY Digest 399

Topics covered in this issue include:

  1) Re: Girls on boys teams
	by "Abigail S. Clabough" 
  2) Re[2]: Girls on boys teams
	by Jan de Regt 

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Date: Sun, 1 Dec 1996 11:06:41 -0500 (EST)
From: "Abigail S. Clabough" 
To: Multiple recipients of list 
Subject: Re: Girls on boys teams
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The way things should be and the way they are are usually not the same.
If you feel that hiding your daughter's gender will make it safer for her
and ease your worry, then do it.  If she is as physical as you say she is,
she may have invited some rough treatment (I am NOT condoning roughing).
I was pretty physical when I was playing on a B level intramural team
last year and ended up with a concussion.  Some of the group felt I was
hit because I am a woman.  Others, myself included, thought I was in the
wrong place at the wrong time.  It's hard to know if it is aggresiveness
towards females or just plain aggressiveness without knowing the boy
that hit her.

I consulted my 12 year old son.  He would check a female no more or less 
than he would a male.  He has also grown up with only a mother for the
last seven years.  I think he has more respect for women than a
lot of his buddies (I don't think of myself as a feminist, but when he
makes a sexist comment, I let him know it!). He does feel that there are
boys on his team that would go out of the way to hit a girl, not just to
prove their dominance, but also to get her attention (flirting).

Good luck!

Abby Clabough
The Clarkson Edge - Women's Hockey
email@hidden
http://www.clarkson.edu/~clabouas/cwhc.html



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Date: 02 Dec 1996 08:33:56 -0500
From: Jan de Regt 
To: email@hidden (Return requested),
Subject: Re[2]: Girls on boys teams



     Whether girls *should have to* hide their pony tails is a pretty moot 
     issue!
     
     The question is, I think, is this girl being targeted because of her 
     pony tail?  And if so, does she want to hide her hair, or just keep on 
     playing hard, hair and all?  (I've seen lots of boys on bantam and 
     midget teams with pony tails!)  If your daughter doesn't mind, should 
     you?  If your daughter were a son, would you even think twice about 
     the game - and if not, think about why you are worried now.  Talk to 
     the coach, what are his/her thoughts on how the game went and how your 
     daughter played, and how she reacted to the physical play.  
     
     Jan.


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Subject: Re: Girls on boys teams
Author:  email@hidden at Internet
Date:    12/1/96 1:20 AM


I think that girls should be allowed to be on boys teams without getting 
punished physically or being harassed.I don't think that they should have 
to hide their ponytails or anything because of their gender.
BE

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